I really wish the CCAC workers had to actually deal with their own family member(s) because I can bet they would want something done really fast!
Yesterday, grandma hit my mom. My mom has said so many times that she didn’t think grandma would ever hurt her despite my warnings. The biggest question I ask myself now is what do I do about it? Nobody seems to want to listen, or make an effort to do anything about it! Do I make another attempt to call or fax the doctor? What else can she do? She could start the antidepressants which might help some. I know she seems to be in the throes of another bladder infection but how many excuses does my mom need to make?
All of grandma’s behaviour still has me wondering what she was like as a child… was she spoiled because she was the only girl? Her father was her favourite and she told my mom that she and her mother didn’t get along well when she was young. Again I wish my great-grandmother was still here to ask. Again I wish that I was a wiser thirteen-year-old and could have thought to ask then. But at thirteen you don’t think of the adults around you getting older. You don’t think of them falling apart like this… especially grandma as nobody else in the family had Alzheimer’s.
So I find myself in a dilemma, wondering what to do. My mom can’t keep going through this and my mom can’t keep making excuses. Bladder infection or not, I don’t care. This behaviour is hiding beneath the surface and with each infection she has, it seems to take another chunk out of her brain.
The new home opens tomorrow for admissions and I so wish that she’d be one of the ones going.
My mom didn’t send her to the day program today because of the bruises she has. She almost fell twice going through the sliding doors so has bruises from hitting her arms on the door frame, then later she hit my mom who, in turn, reached out and grabbed her hands to stop her from doing it again. Grandma’s skin is so thin that she bruises that easily and my mom didn’t want them to think she was abusing her… they’d know by now if that was the case, she’s been going for a couple of months now with no marks. Sometimes s**t happens and most medical staff (I being one of them) know that.
But it’s so hard to day-by-day watch her recede into the unknown… to become someone we don’t recognize and vice versa.
It’s incredibly sad and nobody will do anything to help.