We have almost reached Christmas and with that comes a New Year and much trepidation over what will happen in that New Year.
Barely and evening goes by now where grandma knows where she is. Whether it’s sundowning or not, well, it doesn’t really matter anymore. I haven’t even seen much of her the last few weeks. Most evenings she’s downstairs when we get there. When I’m there, she asks if I got the day off or let go early. She no longer knows the time of the day either. She looks at clocks as we looked at computers 25 years ago!
Each night she has been up, she has waited until my parents turn out the lights and then asks if they are staying there. She asks where they are going to sleep and then where she is going to sleep. She has to be told that her apartment and her bed are down the stairs. What she does when she gets down there is anyone’s guess.
Yesterday she was upstairs all day and didn’t sleep at all. When she doesn’t sleep, she’s even worse, if that’s possible. She did go down around supper and my mom hoped that she went to bed. But when we peeked down, the light was still on.
On Thursday she never came up for supper, or her meds. While we were visiting, she came up, she stood in the short hallway where her door is and that leads to the laundry room and out to the garage and she stood there for we don’t know how long. Next thing we knew, she was gone, she had sneaked off back downstairs.
So it’s fortunate that we will have her for Christmas but I’m not sure what Christmas will bring for her. I’m sure she won’t know my youngest brother, his wife, or the girls. My other brother just moved back out of the house so it’s questionable there. My aunt and uncle will be arriving Christmas Day as well and I’m not sure how she’ll take that as she thought her other son (I’m not going to get into that story right now) was her ex-husband several weeks ago.
I think the New Year will bring a move for her. Either upstairs where my parents can care for her better or to Long Term Care… maybe both.
I wish you all a Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays.